Adult ADD or ADHD can be very challenging on relationships.
Often, the ADD/ADHD partner’s disorder can get in the way of the relationship.
Issues can arise such as: disorganization, procrastination, as well as impulsive decision making. All of these can lead to significant strain on a relationship.
Research has shown that the divorce rate is higher in couples who have a partner with ADD/ADHD. It can also be a cause for quiting a job, or impulsively ruining a career.
The important thing for adults with ADD or ADHD is to follow these steps:
- Get a proper diagnosis
- Look at all treatment options - medication, therapy, coaching, etc.
- Nurture good communication with your spouse/partner - so that you can avoid any impulsive decisions which can ruin your relatioship
I know that sometimes people have trouble finding a doctor who can diagnose them. One trick is to contact the nearest medical school - they may have a doctor who is knowledgeable in this area. You can also ask your family doctor.
Even without a formal diagnosis of ADD or ADHD, you can certainly develop great strategies for dealing with your ADD/ADHD traits. Coaching for ADD can accomplish this. I recommend reviewing materials at Bonnie Mincu’s site: Thrive with ADD. Bonnie has also created a self coaching program - to guide you through the steps that you need to follow to improve your functioning. You can view it here: Self Coaching for ADHD.
Finally, I will share with you a recent news story on ADHD and divorce.
Enjoy!
Video on ADHD and Divorce.
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